Anyone for Brazil???
@ 2006-03-10 - 12:03:57W came home from work last night - I asked him that wifely sort of way how was your day dear - interesting was the response and no more.
Finally get T to bed as its impossible to talk when the beserking 3 year old little emperor around and am sitting enjoying Eastenders with a nice cup of tea, when W says I need to talk to you....oh I knew this was coming!
I need to talk to you but don't shout - why would I shout dear?
So he proceeds to tell me all about going to the coffee machine...amazing the sort of conversations that happen away from the office and place of work. He bumped into big boss and got chatting. Big boss said do you have 5 mins and then trapped him in his lair.
The words Sao Paulo fell from W's lips with an ashen look on his face. They want me to go and work there - what do you think? Urrrrrrrrrr, dooohhhhhh, ummmmmmm!
Didnt' we discuss this a year ago and the answer was no? (I refuse to go anywhere were living in compounds to keep the poor and desperate out, plus having security or carrying a gun is a daily occurrence - hence why SP and Moscow have both been put to bed!) Hadn't we asked if we are going anywhere else its English speaking for T to go to school etc (T is 4 in November and school beckons). Yes I knew you'd be angry says W
I'm not angry, I'm just being asked to hugely change my life again just I'm starting to make sense of it again here in Holland with the potential to start my own business. I've been able to go out and meet up with so many friends and do things with/ without Toby in the past 3 months its means we're finally settled and I knew it was going far too well! Just got to this stage previously and we've moved every time I should know better!
SP is a long way away, its apparently dangerous, full of smog (T is an asmatic), too many cars, poor infastructure to support the 3rd biggest city in the world and a collide of very rich and desperately poor (strange sounds like Dublin in some ways). However, its South America, its Rio de janeiro, a completely wow way of living for a period of time, its an opportunity to see the last great jungles of the world, to visit the Amazon, to experience sights I'll never see if I stay here........
Christ what do I do?
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I was flashed all around the world when I was child and it is very unsettling - especially if you are only child. Always being the new boy is a real chore and made me hate school. On the upside you it has broadened me as person - however I have recently turned dowm moves abroad to keep my eldest in a school in which she's happy and doing well.
 | nicola66 [Member] 2006-03-10 @ 12:18 |
Thanks Peter - great to hear from someone who has been there.
"Some children have lots of first days" thats the tag for one of the International schools here.
It is such a balancing act of opportunity, excitement versus frustration, being unsettled, worry this expat thing. I think there is much to be said for broadening his horizons and ours, but when do you stop the merry go round and get off and do you ever feel settled?
Working at an international school in Geneva has really opened my mind to the lives of people who are moved around the world with their work.
You have to do what you feel is best for your son while also thinking about yourselves - a difficult task.
On a more positive note, one of my colleagues here is from Sao Paulo and misses it like crazy.
| nicola66 [Member] 2006-03-11 @ 08:50 |
Yes aren't we a selfish or slightly neurotic bunch - depends if you are talking to the bread winner or the spouse though???
Mr T will love Brazil - beaches, sea, swimming, running around, monkeys, football, blond women in tight bikinis (oh no thats his dad). I think he's young enough at the moment that it won't really be too much of an issue for him - another 2 years or so
Talking of women in bikinis, I can't possibly go to Brazil - I haven't uncovered since early 2002! Oh my god - cant go cant go cant go Im so FAT!!!!!!!!
We're in a unique position here because it was my husband who wanted to come here (he grew up in the area although he's Irish) but it's me who is the breadwinner!
We're still not sure what we're going to do after the Summer, I have a job here if I want it but there are times when I don't know if I do.
| nicola66 [Member] 2006-03-11 @ 09:18 |
Thats a hard one too. I'm sure W and you have similar feelings about work and what it means to your family if you make a decision to change it. I know he's not particularly enjoyed his current role in the last 12 months and desperately wants something as exciting and as big as this has the potential to be but he was concerned at its impact on us.
I find when we come to the crunch I have to make 2 lists the good and bad of each place where I am now and where I might go (actually I might start doing a 3rd about where I want to be? What's my perfect life style).
Everytime I've done it I've gotten further away from what I had in London but, hey I still miss it. However, if I went back permanently I'm sure it wouldn't be what I wanted anymore. Its really hard to know whats the right thing for you and the rest of the family. Moving around when single is so much easier! good luck with your decisions.
That's our problem. If we do move back then we're going to try and live close to my parents, in the town where I grew up. I just hope that I won't be disappointed by how much the place has changed since I first moved away 10 years ago.
I have to make my decision soon and I just don't know. My boss has been off sick all week so I haven't even been able to talk to her about it all.
 | eggbod [Member] http://wordworld.blog.co.uk 2006-03-10 @ 20:56 |
Is this a temporary contractual move?
Children are far more resilient than you think. I was always the new girl at schools and my son had a taste of that medicine too
| nicola66 [Member] 2006-03-11 @ 08:56 |
Temporary in that it will probably be for 2 years.
I know 2 years goes in the blink of the eye, its just I'm at the beginning of year 5 of not working, not having my own sense of me and I was just beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel with potential new business here and T getting off to school etc.
I'm going to have to start again!
Agree kids are resilient, its probably me that is the one who is not quiet so resilient as I'm the one who usually ends up dealing with everything, whilst someone else just goes to work (it pays our bills, its a new start up, I have to deliver on this, blah blah, blah.....)
As I've realised though, can't let him go on his own - Brazil is full of drop dead gorgeous women in the smallest tightest bikini's.....NOOOOOO. I'm so fat, I'm so fat!
Appreciate your empathy and understanding!
 | do71main [Member] 2006-03-11 @ 22:43 |
Hello
Terrible move to Barnsley it would almost meet criteria of SP and Moscow ho ho!
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