T is doing full days at last. Yeah I might get some time to do things and a break from the driving. He returned to school last week after a week's holiday at end April/early May. First 3 days were great - guess why? His teacher was still on holiday for the first 2 and the Wednesday teacher is now a new lady who is lovely....so he was reallly having a nice time at school. I'd been asked to wait by his teacher for him to go full days after the holidays due to her not being there, and a number of other excuses....well he'd have stayed on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday without issue.... I knew his teacher would be in on Thursday and it would be an issue with her and with T to stay, however, I didn' t have to worry as I was in England for a couple of days and daddy had to deal with it. W told her he was working and didn't have the ability to pick T up at 1.30 and that as he is paying for him to come full time he was therefore staying till 3pm...oh get him. T proceeded to scream for an hour on his departure.....ha, ha. Not as he was staying but because it was Miss H and he thought she was n't coming in obviously and so had run happily into the classroom and ran straight back out when he saw it was her, saying I want to go home, i don't like miss H....(I got this from W).

Apparently in the end as teacher couldn't cope with T screaming he was put in next door class (same age group, nicer teacher) where he calmed down and remained for the rest of the day participating and enjoying himself. Interesting. Prior to the holiday's both T's teacher and the next door teacher had been discussing T and were considering moving him to the other teacher's group....I want it to be their idea (I know that sounds daft) but if I say I want it to his teacher she is so obtuse and awkward that she'd say the opposite and it wouldn't happen because I was suggesting it...it has to come from her with my support of course.

Crazy isn't it.

Friday he was apparently good for the half day he was there - he goes to swimming class at 1 pm.

Today he was great when I dropped him off and the feedback I got was he was joining in and participating mostly and had had a good day....well he'd had a clash with her before break as he wouldn't do sticking and she told me she'd given him an ultimatum of not going out if he wouldn't stick - he apparently stuck. However whilst she was telling me all this he was in floods of tears.... because of her. I arrived to the classroom door (external to playground) were there were a couple of mums and I stood slightly to the side. I don't know if she didn't see me or if she stage managed it....she called another boy, whose mother had arrived behind me? I'd arrived first? I moved slightly to ensure she realised I was there and it was me (different hair style - tied back and sometimes people don't recognise me) and T saw me and got up to come to the door and she shouted at him to wait....he burst into tears of course - devestated at being told off for doing something he didn't understand.....I couldn't believe it! If she wanted him to wait because she wanted to talk to me, then she could say to me - oh can I have a word, as T came to me - wasn't like we could run away without her having time to say something and of course I'd want a word after last week in my absence??? why did she have to speak to him so sharply for nothing (that is her manner and that is what causes him upset `and irritates me). I then am gently rubbing his head and saying don't cry, its okay, nothing wrong when she then says to me "Don't take any notice of him".....do I need her to tell me how to manage my child and his emotions. It just is so obvious to me she doesn't get him at all, she doesn't want to make any attempt to adjust her style to help him settle into school life (remember this is his first year of the next 15 and he is only 4), that her style just rubs me up the wrong way and that she does need to work on her communication skills, attitude and style....where does she get off telling a parent what to do with a 4 year old (their own child) who is crying?

Am I wrong in this?

Of course I want to respond but again public arena - a bunch of 4-5 year olds sitting at her feet and parents arriving behind me..... I want to say look your behaviour and action and directive manner affect my child and me....I am his parent and I don't need to be told how to handle his behaviour when he is crying - it wasn't put on, it was genuine upset at not understanding why he was being told off - her tone of voice... which in fact was a request to wait to mum not him. She is driving me mad and I need to see if we can move him into the other group.

Of course I don't want to go in and slag her off, but the evidence is he is unhappy when she is in the classroom as his teacher. He goes in with little problem and generally good feedback when there is any other teacher in his class - this could be one of 4 he has had to have inconsistently since he started in Janauary 2007. When she is back he is upset and in tears. Its just not fair to him nor her even.